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Tuesday 27 April 2010

Facebook is damaging relationships

Facebook Jealousy We already know that Facebook can be an incredible tool for building and strengthening friendships and relationships. We also know that it can be a relationship buster. And now, a recent study makes the claim that “increased Facebook use significantly predicts Facebook-related jealousy” in romantic relationships.

The study, published in the CyberPsychology & Behavior Journal, analyzed the effect of Facebook use on the romantic relationships of college students. The report concludes that there is a “significant association between time spent on Facebook and jealousy-related feelings and behaviors experienced on Facebook.”

Is Facebook destroying our relationships?

Friday 16 April 2010

Saying Sorry

We all experience conflict - at work, in the family, the playground, our relationships. We've all over-reacted, or behaved in a way we later regretted and wished we could make redress for. Make Your Peace is your chance to do just that. It's a special campaign from Peace Direct marking the UN's International Day of Peace, 21 September, to help you do something positive and practical about conflict in your life.
There you are… you’re having a peaceful moment with your girlfriend engaging in meaningless conversation about an equally senseless issue when it comes out of nowhere to blindside you both: a fight so nasty that, after several rounds
of back-and-forth bickering, sends the two of you to your respective corners… banged up and badly bruised.

At first, your ego stands tall fueled by the fury of the recent event. There’s no way in hell you’re taking that initial step toward a resolution, you think to yourself. But like all matters involving conflict, time lends its healing hand here as well and before you know it… you’re feeling calm yet overwhelmed with guilt.

You want to make up with her but you’re clueless as to how you should proceed. You’re embarrassed and at a loss for words because deep down you know that saying “sorry” just ain’t gonna cut it.

So, if you’re finding yourself in this all-too-common situation let me offer you a simple approach that, when followed, virtually guarantees a swift recovery and you’ll soon be chalking up this fight to nothing more than a faint memory of the past.

It all boils down to 3 steps, so here they are… ( these pasted comments are from the internet and not mine )

Depending on the relationship and the seriousness of the fight this step might not be necessary. She might accept your apology from the get go and you can put this fight behind you. However, I’ve included it here to cover all possible ways this scenario can play itself out.

If your girlfriend doesn’t immediately make up with you after apologizing or even taking the full blame for the fight, your next move is to back off and let her know that you’ll wait for her to get in touch whenever she feels ready.

Under no circumstances should you push for a resolve. There’s nothing more counter-productive than trying to persuade an angry woman for a second chance… especially if she’s not ready to give it to you.

However, rest assured that, in time, she will forgive and forget. And if you’ve followed the instructions in here to the letter, she’ll also reward you in her own way for handling this fight in a mature fashion (let your imagination run wild with the latter ;)).

In conclusion, while this fight with your girlfriend may seem like the end of the world (with no possibility of coming to a resolution), rest assured that by taking a stepwise and calculated approach, this too will come to pass. And when it does, you’ll be happy to find yourself back where you started: enjoying the peaceful times with the girl you love.

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Saturday 3 April 2010

TONIGHT: The Lonnigan Brother's

TONIGHT: The Lonnigan Brother's (Steve Simpson & Eddie Armer) at the Poacher, Tudeley.
For one night only, a vacancy exists for a washboard and tea chest bass player! Come and join the skiffle,
blues and beyond of Ronnie and Donny Lonnigan.
 
SUNDAY: The Lonnigans at the Royal Albert Hall, Ignite Platform. If you would like to see the whole band which includes Steve Simpson (Ronnie) on guitars, mandolin, fiddle and vocals, Derek Mason (Laurie) on washboard/vocals, John Armer (Johnnie) on guitar/trombone/vocals, Eddie Armer (Donny) on harmonicas, mandolin, vocals and special guest Lonnigan Nigel Portman-Smith on double bass and accordion, then join us for brunch Easter Sunday. (Connie is away touring)